Monday, March 9, 2009

God Chooses Mom for Disabled Child

My son Matthew (our first child) suffered a brain injury due to the oxygen deprivation...When he was 5 the level of the damage and disability was very obvious. I was very depressed and so scared. One day I found an envelope addressed to me in my mailbox. There was no return address. Inside I found a newspaper was a very touching article written by Erma Bombeck. To this day I have no idea who sent it to me...but I am certain that it was someone who knew I was hurting and cared a great deal about me. To this day...I continue to share that article...hopefully it will find and touch a mother who has just learned her child will have challenges and let her know that someone knows how she feels and that she is not alone.

God Chooses Mom for Disabled Child
Written by Erma Bombeck Published in the Today Newspaper Sept. 4th, 1993

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit. This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.

Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
"Armstrong, Beth; son; patron saint, Matthew.
"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter; patron saint, Cecelia.
"Rutledge, Carrie; twins; patron saint.... give her Gerard. He's used to profanity.
" Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."
The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."
"Exactly," smiles God. "Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."
"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence. She'll have to teach the child to live in her world and that's not going to be easy."
"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."
God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less then perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says "Momma" for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations." "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see---ignorance, cruelty, prejudice--- and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."
"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in midair.
God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."


  1. Hi Monica,
    Stopping by via SITS! I love the wisdom of Erma Bombeck. I can tell you've put a love of effort into your blog. It looks great!

  2. I adore this story. Erma Bombeck is my hero. My mother passed this one on to me around the time my Youngest turned 1. He has PKU. He's a challenge, but I wouldn't change a thing. I do not take a breath for granted. He'll be 3 tomorrow - oh how far we have come.

    Thank you for reminding me. I don't think I stumbled upon your post by accident.

    Welcome to SiTS!! Em

  3. Oh I totally agree y'all! Erma was a very special woman with a great understanding of the human race.

    Thank you so much for the nice welcome...I think I am going to love SITS!